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GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (WOOD)-In an area where results are defined by consistency, Darius Mitchell trained his strongest muscle: his mind.
“I was heavy and tears welled up in my eyes,” Mitchell said. “I never thought in a million years he would be.”
Mitchell said he balanced the weight of losing his brother Christopher Montgomery. He died by suicide on April 15, 2018.
“He died of a broken heart,” Mitchell said.
The grief is intense. It put Mitchell’s soul on life support.
“It was easy for me to say, ‘OK, I’m going to drink more,’ and that excess drink turned into two extra drinks,” Mitchell said. I want to talk to anyone. ”
God’s intervention changed that.
“My brother visited me in a dream,” Mitchell said. “It was a dream and he said, ‘What are you doing?’”
Mitchell said he later put down the bottle and took the therapy.
It’s an outlet where he says the men in his circle have never been taught to explore, citing what mental health experts call toxic masculinity.
“This is probably the number one thing that probably prevents many men from seeking help for mental health issues,” said Marvin McKenzie Jr., a child and family therapist at Arbor Circle.
The latest data from the Centers for Disease Control reveals that women are more likely than men to go into therapy.
A 2020 survey found that more than 12% of women had received counseling in the past 12 months compared to less than 8% of men.
When News 8 asked McKenzie the reason for the difference, he said some men “see it as a sign of weakness and don’t want to ask for help.”
He added that some men think that going into therapy makes them look crazy.
Whatever the vision, Mitchell found a spotter helping him carry his weight.
“I was looking for a therapist and I found a friend,” Mitchell said.
He encouraged other men to do the same, knowing that trying to elevate a man would demean any man.
“It’s great to be emotional,” Mitchell said. “When you need help, it doesn’t make you inferior to a man; it makes you more of a man.